Are you problematic about your kids’ impatience toward things and activities? You are not alone.
Whether your kids are thinking about an unfinished mobile game, the next series of ‘Adventure Time’, the hot sandwiches waiting at the kitchen or their pending artwork they’re currently working on kids drawing table, there’s the tendency that will lose their interest soon.
This is not new though, in fact, a Vancouver speaker Kathy Lynn expertly explains that kids of six (or above) regularly mumbled about being bored and tired, then leading to your poor communication to them. But don’t worry, you can visit Step2 Direct website for new ideas.There still are some possible routes out of this. Below are the five things you can probably try to keep a child continuously interested not only when talking to you as a parent but also when listening to his class discussion or when playing outdoors.
- Know them. Each kid has different personalities as all humans do. Know their wants, fears and dreams and you can apply those to know what can make them stay with you mentally. Of course, you can play like you’re mad at them if you know that that can build character and respect in to them. But it is more favorable to use gentleness into them.
- Stare at them through the eyes. This is not an advice right from a book of hypnotism. But looking straight at your kid’s eyes will make them know your sincerity (which you should really have) and make them stay with you especially if you apply what’s in #3.
- Act like a kid. You should definitely not throw tantrums or talk literally like them. This doesn’t mean like that. But instead, talk in way that will attract a kid’s interest, like perhaps castles, princes, dragons and superpowers. Be creative, then in inserting your point in your make-shift dialogue and they will even surely be the one to drag your clothes down and talk for eternity.
- Apply consistency. Most kids think very simply. And if you go into applying varying techniques in making them focused, they might be confused. They will not be sure of what you are trying to make them do, and conclude that you are just playing around with them. And believe me they really hate adult jokes. It’s like some kind of alien language to them.
- Be persistent. Not all things can be achieved successfully at the first try. So be ready to allot a mile-long worth of your patience in trying and trying and trying again all the things that are stated above. Don’t be afraid to earn the title of the king or queen of trial and error trial as long as it is for your kid
As much as possible, prevent yourself from giving them rewards. Say for instance,they’re done cleaning the outdoor swing sets from Step2 Direct (which is part of their task). Don’t give them something to look forward for that completion. Offering your children a prize could actually weaken their pleasure on the activity.
Why do you think so? According to Alfie Kohn (the author of the Punished by Reward), It’s simply because their focus will now change from the learning process to the prize.
Still, no matter how many articles you’ve read to make your child stay focused, nothing will be effective if you abide by the words and forget to put the thought of your child’s good in every letters of those. It’s not these tips which can make them be closer to you. It is your closeness to them that made you want to read more of these.